Being selfish is not a dirty word. It is simply a fact that we are all selfish in different ways. It is important to remember that the very things we do that are considered being selfish are often the very things that can really open us up to the most joy and satisfaction. I find this especially true when it comes to our food choices. It is common for people to have a lot of feelings about food and how they should feel about it.
The most common thing that people say about food out of necessity is “I don’t like myself.” The only way I can think of this is as an attempt to be kind and loving, not to mention a way for people to express their feelings of inadequacy or emptiness. This is especially true in the case of food. I’ve been in relationships where I’ve had to be very clear about what I want from the person I’m dating.
The one thing that makes selfish people a bad person is their unwillingness to give up their pleasure. If they were to give themselves to someone else without giving up their own pleasure, that would be selfish. If you need to eat, don’t eat until you’re full. If your partner needs to go to a concert or other outdoor activity, don’t do it without him. If you need to spend time with someone, don’t do it without him.
People who dont give up their own pleasure, or who need to wait for their partners to give them pleasure, or who are so selfish that they dont give up their own pleasure, are bad people. If you dont give up your own pleasure, you are a bad person.
The quote about people who dont give up their own pleasure and need to wait for their partners to give them pleasure. This is true for some people, but its not true for everyone, and even if you are one of the fortunate few who arent, you still need to exercise self-awareness about how and why you need to wait.
If you want to be a good person, you should exercise self-awareness and self-control about why you need to wait. Otherwise you are a selfish person.
Another quote that I love is, “You should always wait until you are ready to give.” This is exactly the advice I give to my students when they ask me to give them a quote that goes along with the phrase. You can’t just give a quote that goes along with a phrase. A quote that goes along with a phrase is like a song that goes along with a song and will be played throughout the entire song, not just one line at the end.
Wait times are often cited by people who are trying to motivate themselves to go out and “do something”. The problem is that waiting to do something is a terrible way of getting anything done. You can’t just wait for something to happen, you can’t just wait to get an interview or a promotion or to find a new job. You have to do something or you can’t do anything at all.
The person who says this, and the person who says the opposite, are both probably the same person, but in the same way. When you wait to do something, you are waiting to do something wrong.
Sometimes you get caught up and realize you have no answers, but that doesn’t mean you’re going to stop trying. It means you’re not going to stop trying, and you’re not going to stop trying again. When you know exactly what you’re doing, you can ask for a favor. If you get caught up with a certain person, or a certain scenario, that means you know the person has no answer to your question.