I’ve been going through a lot of changes these last few years. A few of those changes have been related to the people who I have become close to. I have had the privilege of knowing many of these people for over a decade and I have been able to share a lot of different stories with them as well. So for my friends and family, I have decided to share some of the best quotes from these folks and have them as a reminder in how far we have come.
I think the hardest part about these quotes is that your friends and family are probably still in the midst of the same feelings or have experienced the same situation that you are. Like many of the people on these lists, I’ve been through the transition and am still adjusting to a new normal. I’ve learned that I’m more alone than I have ever been before. I’ve learned that I am not the same person that I was twenty years ago, or even ten years ago.
I don’t know if I’ve ever been more alone, but I hope I have gotten better at seeing the big picture. Because what I’ve learned is that I have friends. And I know that if I ever find myself in a situation similar to my friend’s or family’s, I can always count on my friends to help me see the truth of the situation, no matter how many times it’s been explained to me.
Ive learned that there are no wrong answers, and that there is always a right answer. I never learn from a bad answer. The only answer Ive learned is “never mind.” Ive learned to stop trying to figure out what is right and start trying to figure out what is wrong. Ive learned that if I listen to my body, I can learn to be okay. Ive learned that if I listen to my heart, I can learn to live.
The problem is when you’re not able to trust your own body, you don’t trust your body. You don’t trust your own heart. It’s much easier to trust your own body than to trust your own heart. It’s much easier to trust your own heart than to trust your own heart.
Thats why it may seem so awkward to talk about these things with someone who is a little bit older than you. You can come off as a little self-involved. Not to mention, you can’t talk about a certain sort of relationship without being a little bit weird.
I know. It is awkward. The truth is that I feel like I am just a little bit weird. This is why I never talk about my exes with anyone. I feel like I have a “secret.” I don’t want anyone to know how much I really like them. I dont want to open up to anyone because they would just think I am weird for liking them. So when it comes to friends with benefits, I tend to keep it to myself.
Self-involved? Well, yes, you’re right. I am self-involved. But then I am also self-aware. That makes me even more self-involved. I’ve always assumed that I am the most self-aware person I know, so I don’t really have any need to keep it in the “I’m just weird” category in our conversations.
Sure, it seems odd to say that I am the most self-aware person I know, but I think that is partly because I have been trained to use my awareness to protect myself. Ive also been trained to not think about myself in the same way others do, because I worry that they will think they know me better than me. But I think this is a mistake. My awareness gives me a huge advantage over others because I can do things like know their thoughts and motives.